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#JeremyMardis was killed by cops; does anyone care?

Last night I was in bed cuddling with my five year old son as he drifted off to sleep. He had a Mickey Mouse toy tightly clenched in one fist and a green marker top clenched in the other. As he grew more drowsy he arched his back and pressed the bottoms of his feet …

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Why I Decided to “Come Out” of the Autism Closet

I’ve always been autistic, but I haven’t always known it. I’ve known that I was different from other people, but that difference didn’t have a name that I was aware of. It was just the way I was. Some of the ways that I was different were things that were pretty cool. Like the way …

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Accommodation is What Respect Looks Like in Public/Upbeat CPR Rocks

Yesterday my youngest child turned five years old. Birthdays are a big deal around here, as no day is promised to any of us and I view a new year of life as a new adventure to be embarked on in the story of our lives. Additionally, in our family we don’t believe in a …

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#JusticeForKayleb NOW

Most people who know me know how passionate I am about things that I care about, especially human rights. It’s personal. I advocate and I write and I take action because I deeply believe in the causes I champion. I believe that regardless of age, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, ability status, nationality, socioeconomic level, HIV or …

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I don’t want your autism awareness; I want autism acceptance.

Today is “World Autism Awareness Day.” While I think awareness is important, I ask you, as a Autistic mom to Autistic and non-Autistic kids: What value is awareness without acceptance? We have been “aware” of HIV for decades and yet people still choose to fear and stigmatize those living with it (case in point: HIV …

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Erased

Dear “autism community,” especially autism parents, Far too frequently the perspectives and experiences of autistic adults are dismissed by autism parents. Not by all parents, of course, but too many. We are told that we are “too high functioning” to understand what you are “dealing with.” We are told that we cannot understand the “severe …

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STOP KILLING US/Disability Day of Mourning/#Disabled Lives Matter/#DDOM

This post is about Disability Day of Mourning. But before I can post about that, I need to share something else first. I promise you it will make sense when I tie it all together. (At least it makes sense in my head…) When I think back about some of my thoughts (and comments) from …

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Why I don’t like all of those “get off social media and into the real world” posts

By now we’ve all seen them. The videos, articles, posts, etc that declare how “fake” social media is and stating how important it is to interact with “real people” in the “real world.” Since we’re still in the middle of the “new year, new you” period, such posts are plentiful right now, but you can …

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Good Cops Know That #BlackLivesMatter

I’m going to highlight a few “good cop” stories on social media this weekend. Feel free to join me. The bad ones get far more attention than the good ones, and I want to show the good ones some love. In a recent post about my daughter’s short disappearance at my son’s school, I briefly …

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Fear

I have blogged more over the past few weeks than I typically blog in a year. Some people are “stress eaters.” I wonder if I’m a “stress blogger?” I hope to break that habit; I don’t want to blog only when something is wrong. But…something IS wrong. Around 4:00 PM today I learned that 6 …

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