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Why Churches Can Be Hell for Autistic People, Part 1 of 2

Churches can be hell for autistic people – unwelcoming, uncomfortable, unpleasant places to be. This may not be happy news, but it many cases it is true. It has certainly been true for me at different times throughout my life – both during the period of life when I wasn’t a Christian and since I …

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#JusticeForKayleb is reality. Good things DO still happen in the world…

(This has absolutely nothing to do with the post…but I just happened to glance at the date/time on the corner of my computer screen, and since it’s after midnight it is now 03/15. And because I am a total nerd on top of being a teacher, I can’t move on to the rest of the …

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All of me: how do I know where blackness ends and neurodivergence begins?

Most of us have multiple identities. Few (actually, probably no) people in this world can claim a existence that’s purely homogeneous. We are all different in some way, and usually in several ways. However, there’s a pretty distinct difference in our perspectives and our experiences when our specific differences fall within marginalized and/or minority groups …

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Don’t Pray My Autism Away

I am autistic.  I am also rearing children who are autistic – along with non-autistic children who have various disabilities. Our home is swimming in acronyms that stand for all of the different diagnoses in our home. We are quite the “motley crew,” my loud, flapping, spinning, scripting, disabled family and I. And though it’s …

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#JeremyMardis was killed by cops; does anyone care?

Last night I was in bed cuddling with my five year old son as he drifted off to sleep. He had a Mickey Mouse toy tightly clenched in one fist and a green marker top clenched in the other. As he grew more drowsy he arched his back and pressed the bottoms of his feet …

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Why I Decided to “Come Out” of the Autism Closet

I’ve always been autistic, but I haven’t always known it. I’ve known that I was different from other people, but that difference didn’t have a name that I was aware of. It was just the way I was. Some of the ways that I was different were things that were pretty cool. Like the way …

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Accommodation is What Respect Looks Like in Public/Upbeat CPR Rocks

Yesterday my youngest child turned five years old. Birthdays are a big deal around here, as no day is promised to any of us and I view a new year of life as a new adventure to be embarked on in the story of our lives. Additionally, in our family we don’t believe in a …

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#JusticeForKayleb NOW

Most people who know me know how passionate I am about things that I care about, especially human rights. It’s personal. I advocate and I write and I take action because I deeply believe in the causes I champion. I believe that regardless of age, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, ability status, nationality, socioeconomic level, HIV or …

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I don’t want your autism awareness; I want autism acceptance.

Today is “World Autism Awareness Day.” While I think awareness is important, I ask you, as a Autistic mom to Autistic and non-Autistic kids: What value is awareness without acceptance? We have been “aware” of HIV for decades and yet people still choose to fear and stigmatize those living with it (case in point: HIV …

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Dear “autism community,” especially autism parents, Far too frequently the perspectives and experiences of autistic adults are dismissed by autism parents. Not by all parents, of course, but too many. We are told that we are “too high functioning” to understand what you are “dealing with.” We are told that we cannot understand the “severe …

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